Paul said the following to the believers in the book of Collosians:
"Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive and above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.
And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
Bondservants, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ."
I broke some rules of Bible quoting, but I did it to make a point. I pulled these out of the text of Chapter 3. But it makes the point so well. This is who you are - God's chosen ones, His Holy ones, His Beloved. NOW...be who you are, do what God's chosen, holy and beloved ones do...
So many believers are trying to do THIS or THAT in order to prove WHO they are. We need to rest in WHO WE ARE and who CHRIST has made us; and from there, allow who He has made you to be to flow from there. An apple tree will bear apples. It doesn't have to try not make oranges. It just produces fruit. And the fruit it produces is apples, because that is what it is. An apple tree!
So who are you?? Yes, you a believer. But what has He made you to be? Leaders lead, salesmen sell, singers sing, actors act, preachers preach, teachers teach, mechanics fix, businessmen do business and mothers mother. Don't try and be who He hasn't made you to be. Be who He has made you.
Being who Jesus has made you, using the talents He has given you to love and serve others, will be rewarded. You doing Kingdom stuff when you release the giftings, the graces and the talents He has put in you. The will of God for your life is not miserable, heavy or unexciting. The call of God for you brings much joy, you have that EUREKA!! feeling when you doing it. Just be who He has made you. Use your gift to serve others. You don't have to be like anyone else. Be you. It brings Him much pleasure!